Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Book Winners and a Few Beautiful Things

My friend Alex described the following scenario as "whiplash." 

Saturday we were here.

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Hard to believe. Still pinching myself. But there we were, just me and Doug, on a beach in the middle of the South Pacific for an entire week. Our first trip sans kids. First (!)

By Sunday evening we were here.

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Pulling into our driveway with a foot of snow on the ground.

Sweet Doug has listened to me pine for a beach trip a whole seven years now. So he went to all sorts of planning and saving to make this happen. Had he not pitched the idea with serious conviction, I would have laughed it off. For a split second I thought, Sure. We could do it. We could go. And then I thought, No way. This is nutso. Who can (or would want) to do my job? (Most moms think this way, right?)

Was I worried about leaving? Naaahhh. But for some reason I woke every morning the week before departure with a sore jaw and sore molars left side. Pretty sure I was grinding my teeth at night. When I told people where we were going I got this rush of elation at the thought, followed by a quick siege of terror deep in my belly. The kind that made me want to kick my heels up and yell yeehah, then run promptly to the bathroom and vomit.


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Proof that we really were there

But thanks to my parents, Doug's parents, and my sister Deb, the week was aptly covered. With people I knew we could trust. More on these good people and their generous giving a little later. They were amazing. I mean, who wants to come and hang with our brood for an entire week? No one. But who was willing? Family. 

So I took a stack of books with me (three of which I finished), some thank you notes, and the mullings of two writing projects. I thought I'd drill through most of my books, do some writing, finish at least one blog post, return all my emails (I'm so sorry if you're on that list of "need to respond to" - I will get there!) and tackle all my thank you notes. 

Oh. And talk with Doug so long we would solve every family issue, discuss every child in detail, and write down a list of family goals for the next 15 years. 


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That's Doug way out there in the surf

Well, it took almost four days to decompress. I had a knot in my upper back that stayed until we spent an entire day in Hana. Eventually it disappeared and I began to shed all the hurry, hustle, and no-time-to-sit-down-ness I've come to know as normal. I thought I'd be über productive while we were island bound. But to be honest, I couldn't do it. I just flattened into the beach, dissolved like a stiff snowman in the rain, watched the waves for hours, and felt the sun trickle into, under and over my skin. My body, my brain, all of it just kind of slowed into a place of living nowhere but the present. I did a whole lot of... nothing. And to my surprise, it was very healing. 

Jolting back into reality this morning wasn't easy. The contrast of temperature, pace, and number of little people was so polar it was almost hysterical. I went from reading Nevil Shute for two hours straight and watching the sun rise over the beach, to cleaning up a colossal poopy potty mess and barking the usuals - "off the counter," "put your shoes on please," "we don't say stupid," and "let me have the sticks - someone's going to get hurt." I felt a bit like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. But I am so grateful we were able to go. More on our trip later.

Without further adieu, here are the winners of the Deliberate Motherhood books.


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#7  - Knit 1, Knit 2. You lovely lady. Please send me your mailing address - cath.wildnprecious@gmail.com. And I'll put your book in the mail this week.


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#21 - Sandra. Hello dear friend. Please do the same. Send me your mailing address and I'll send your copy right out.

To the rest of you, thank you for all your wonderful comments. For all your sentiments of support. I hope you'll purchase your own copy here. Or download the online version from the POMs website. If you do read the book, I'd love to hear your feedback.

Since I titled this post A Few Beautiful Things, here are a few more pics from Hana. Hana is on the east side of Maui. The jungle side. The rainy side. The more rustic part of the island known as Old Hawaii.

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Plumeria to go behind the ear. Favorite island scent.

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Rainbow over the ocean the first night we arrived in Hana.

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African Tulip Tree

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Waimoku Falls

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Sunrise from our cottage window

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Craggy coastline viewed from Charles Lindbergh's grave

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Just the two of us

And for fun, I want to share this fantastic video with you. The Young Men in our ward (local congregation) made this video for our Young Women (ages 12-18). Eliza asked me if the boys would make a video like this when she was old enough to be in Young Womens. I said, "You can only hope, darling." 

Makes me think how amazing the programs of the Mormon church are - that they engender this kind of respect and honor in their men (even at early ages) for women. I usually don't say it so overtly, but this makes me proud to be a Mormon. I adore these boys. Enjoy.




22 comments:

  1. Thank you! Can't wait to read your book! Emailed my address...

    I'd love to take a vacation at the beach. It would be easier to arrange child care than to get hubby on a plane tho! Glad you enjoyed your trip.

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  2. That is the cutest video ever. Love it.
    Glad you had time to get away.

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  3. What a fantastic trip- glad you had a chance to get away- its refreshing. Your pictures are lovely.
    And I am so delighted to get the book. Thanks, for sharing. I love reading your writing.

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  4. As the mother of girls, I loved this video!! We need more positive messages out there - for everyone. I am sooooo thrilled that you took this trip. I am green with envy but we are saving and planning for our 10-yr anniversary in 2 years. Cannot wait. You inspire me that I can put all of the balls down for a few days and reconnect with my hubby and myself again. Welcome back to winter! :)

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  5. Yay for you!! We had our first trip away in eons last spring. It was so surreal and so brief, I'm not sure I ever completely decompressed. I love that you allowed yourself to melt away and be absorbed by the ocean, the waves, the sun (those weren't your words, but that's the image I'm left with!). And I love the picture of your shadows in the sand. I'm sure there's some symbolism in there, somewhere! :)

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  6. So glad you got to get away and love your young men and their video! It brought tears to my eyes.

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  7. Loved the video and that you and Doug got away for a week. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Ok I wasn't going to comment until the video was so sweet it brought tears to my eyes.

    Every single time my husband & I left our family (6 kids, the last 3 triplets) when the triplets were young I felt like the reentry was going to kill me. Glad you guys got to enjoy Maui!

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  9. That video is so charming. I don't think you could watch it and not feel a little pick-me-up.

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  10. I am so extremely happy for you! How wonderful to escape with Doug. I loved the pictures you took. You really know what you are doing with your camera. I need to order me a copy of the book you were a part of. Yay! soon it will be a complete book written by you. Loved the video. I bet the young women in the ward felt loved. How wonderful and fun.

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  11. Knit 1, Knit 2 - Got your address. Book will go in the mail Friday. And as for a beach trip, you need a good quiet stretch of sand you can drive to! ;)

    Sarah dear - I know - it's darling. Miss you. xo

    Sandra - got your address also. Will put the book in the mail Friday! Hope you are doing well.

    Lisa - I agree. It's what you want for your daughters isn't it? Young women, during those stretching years, need all the nurturing and confidence we can give them. As for getting away, that's exactly what it means: putting down the balls. And if most of them don't get picked up while you're gone... it's okay. :) Looking forward to your own trip in the not too distant future!!

    Tricia - I remember your post on your trip. It seemed a beautiful, restful place too. As for decompressing completely, I think I needed one more week. To really open up. It's hard to let go. And symbolism in the picture? All I could think of was how unusual, yet lovely, it was to see the two of us together. And unattached. But it was fleeting... like most shadows. :)

    Mimi - I know. It's such a sweet demonstration of appreciation. The girls loved it!

    Leslie - It was wonderful. xo

    Cindy - SO glad you commented. I think I'm in the re-entry fall out stage, and I'm with you. It's about to do me in. My Mom fell down our stairs the day we flew home and broke her wrist. Doug and I were delayed (even on separate flights) and I got in with just enough time to grab the kids and rush to Doug's parents home to say goodbye before they left on their mission. Doug got in later, then left on a flight first thing in the morning to travel for work. The kids have pushed me to the very limit, every day - been more demanding and resistant. Maybe they resent my going a bit? I am in TOTAl awe over your triplet factor. That one blows my mind. Two I can wrap my brain around. Two arms, two parents... But three or more? Oh bless you dear lady!

    Elizabeth - Truly. Charming. Hope you are well sweet girl.

    Kristen - I miss you!!! I need an update on your life. Can we get together after Christmas?

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    1. yes! lets for sure get together after Christmas.

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  12. Cath, this place looks absolutely paradisiacal. Seriously beautiful. I am SO very happy you got to go. Most of all, I am glad that you were able to unwind and embrace the relaxed pace and soak up the sun. It will be a trip you will never, ever forget. I read your comment to Cindy…so sorry about your Mom falling. I am so sorry it's been a nutty few days adjusting. I wouldn't expect it to be any other way….kids always save up all their angst for their own mama:). I have seen it time and time again with my own kids. They can be angels for other people at school, at church, and at friends' houses. When they're back in their own space with their own mama, they release all their frustration and anger. Here's to hoping you all get back to normal soon! Go easy on yourself in the meantime. Traveling always takes a lot out of me, especially when adjusting to a time zone change.

    I love all the pictures you took. That one of your shadows is incredible really. What an opportunity!!!

    That video was absolutely adorable. If only every ward could do something like that for their girls.

    Love you, Cath.

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  13. I love the video.

    Our YW/Scouts sent us postcards one year while we were at girls camp: http://ellenpatton.blogspot.com/2008/07/postcards-from-scouts.html

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    1. Ellen - loved that you actually have a photo of the prank. What a great story!

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  14. Catherine,

    Where's the blog post where you talk about your birth experience with the girls? I've been thinking about what a powerful post that was, and am trying to find it. Help?
    Also, I just noticed from your Mormon Women Project interview that your favorite hymn is "Abide with Me." Funny. It's also mine. I mean, I have several that have significant meaning for me (probably like you), but this one has special attachment for me.

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    1. Dear Elizabeth, here is the post. From Segullah. http://segullah.org/daily-special/he-neither-slumbers-nor-sleeps/ And I would love to hear more about your love for "Abide with Me." And which version you prefer. :) How are you feeling these days? Are you well? Baby doing well?

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  15. I feel so honored you actually quoted me here.

    Saw you took your post down. Oh cath. Pain. I'm sure we will see you soon.

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    1. Sweet Alex, yes pain. How could I leave those celebratory words up? I thought of you minutes after processing the initial news Friday. Kara even said that night, "I can't believe we're going to go through this again." You must have felt desperate to be here. I'm so glad you will be able to comfort her like no one else. From a place of knowing. I love you. And yes, we will see you soon. xo

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  16. Oh my - what a wonderful getaway. So deserving.

    And I'm bawling watching the video. Such good stuff. Good Message. Good kids. xoxo

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  17. Cath,

    "Abide With Me," as in Hymn #166. I _love_ "Abide With Me, Tis Eventide," tho, too.
    We will have to discuss some time why it has such significance. I'd love to hear why you love it too. Some time, some time...I keep hoping we'll meet in the flesh at some point.
    Thank you for the link to the post. I need to go read it again.

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